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and one of these persons may also entertain the same feeling towards
him. Here then we have a case of two people mutually well-disposed, whom nevertheless we
cannot speak of as friends, because they are not aware of each other's regard. To be
friends therefore, men must (1) feel goodwill for each other, that is,
wish each other's good, and (2) be aware of each other's goodwill, and
(3) the cause of their goodwill must be one of the lovable qualities
mentioned above. 3.
Now these qualities differ in kind; hence the affection or friendship they occasion may
differ in kind also. There are accordingly three kinds of friendship, corresponding in
number to the three lovable qualities; since a reciprocal affection, known to either
party, can be based on each of the three, and when men love each other, they wish each
other well in respect of the quality which is the ground of their friendship.1 Thus friends whose affection is based on utility do
not love each other in themselves, but in so far as some benefit accrues to them from each
other. And similarly with those whose friendship is based on pleasure: for instance, we
enjoy the society of witty people not because of what they are in themselves, but because
they are agreeable to us. 3.
[2]
Hence in a friendship based on utility or on pleasure men love their friend for their
own good or their own pleasure, and not as being the person loved, but as useful or
agreeable. And therefore these friendships are based on an accident, since the friend is
not loved for being what he is, but as affording some benefit or pleasure as the case may
be. 3.
[3]
Consequently
friendships of this kind are easily broken off, in
the event of the parties themselves changing, for if no longer pleasant or useful to each
other, they cease to love each other. And utility is not a permanent quality; it differs
at different times. Hence when the motive of the friendship has passed away, the
friendship itself is dissolved, having existed merely as a means to that end. 3.
[4]
Friendships of Utility seem to occur most frequently between the old, as in old age men
do not pursue pleasure but profit; and between those persons in the prime of life and
young people whose object in life is gain. Friends of this kind do not indeed frequent
each other's company much, for in some cases they are not even pleasing to each other, and
therefore have no use for friendly intercourse unless they are mutually profitable; since
their pleasure in each other goes no further than their expectations of advantage.
With these friendships are classed family ties of hospitality with foreigners. 3.
[5]
With the young on the other hand the motive of friendship appears to be pleasure, since
the young guide their lives by emotion, and for the most part pursue what is pleasant to
themselves, and the object of the moment. And the things that please them change as their
age alters; hence they both form friendships and drop them quickly, since their affections
alter with what gives them pleasure,
1 i.e., they wish each other to become more virtuous, pleasant, or useful as the case may be; so that there is a different species of will-wishing in each case.