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For a friend is not to be had without trial
and is not a matter of a single day, but time is needed; hence the
peck of salt' has come to be proverbial. At the same time if a friend is really to be
your friend he must be not only good absolutely but also good to you;
for a man is good absolutely by being good, but he is a friend by
being good to another, and he is both good absolutely and a friend
when both these attributes harmonize together, so that what is good
absolutely is also good for another person; or also he may be not good
absolutely yet good to another because useful. But being a friend of many
people at once is prevented even by the factor of affection, for it is
not possible for affection to be active in relation to many at
once.These things, therefore, show the
correctness of the saying that friendship is a thing to be relied on,
just as happiness is a thing that is self-sufficing. And it has been
rightly said1: "Nature is permanent, but wealth is
not—" although it would be much finer to say 'Friendship'
than 'Nature.'2 And it is proverbial that
time shows a friend, and also misfortunes more than good fortune. For
then the truth of the saying 'friends' possessions are common
property' is clear for only friends, instead of the natural goods and
natural evils on which good and bad fortune turn, choose a human being
rather than the presence of the former and the absence of the
latter;
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and misfortune shows those
who are not friends really but only because of some casual utility.
And both are shown by time; for even the useful friend is not shown
quickly, but rather the pleasant one—except that one who is
absolutely pleasant is also not quick to show himself. For men are
like wines and foods; the sweetness of those is quickly evident, but
when lasting longer it is unpleasant and not sweet, and similarly in
the case of men. For absolute pleasantness is a thing to be defined by
the End it effects and the time it lasts. And even the multitude would agree, not in
consequence of results only, but in the same way as in the case of a
drink they call it sweeter—for a drink fails to be pleasant
not because of its result, but because its pleasantness is not
continuous, although at first it quite takes one in.The primary form of friendship therefore, and the one that causes
the name to be given to the others, is friendship based on goodness
and due to the pleasure of goodness, as has been said before. The
other friendships occur even among children and animals and wicked
people: whence the sayings— "Two of an age each other
gladden" and "Pleasure welds the bad man to the bad."3And also the bad may be pleasant to each other not as being bad or
neutral,4 but if for instance both are musicians or one
fond of music and the other a musician, and in the way in which all
men have some good in them and so fit in with one another. Further they might be
mutually useful and beneficial (not absolutely but for their purpose)
not as being bad or neutral.
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